There are many reasons that we have trouble letting go of a relationship, or of the person that we care about – even if we are still in that relationship. There are many reasons to also let go of a relationship… even though it can be hard.
There are ways that you can try to let go of your relationship, past or present, and look to a brighter future… with healthy relationships, and a happy mind.
Realize It’s Over
The first step to letting go of a relationship is to accept that it is, indeed, over – that your future is in your own hands, and you are, right now, by yourself, without anyone else there. It can be scary, without a doubt, but you need to face it.
No matter what sort of closing your relationship might, or might not, have had, you need to accept that it’s over. You and your previous partner are no more, and there is nothing that you can do about it.
Don’t Press the ‘Pause’ Button
Ever feel like you’re sitting stagnant, waiting for your ex to come back to you? Perhaps like feel that you can’t move on? You know, ever second that you spend thinking about them is a second that you could be living life to the fullest.
Don’t put your entire life on hold because of that person – letting go of a relationship means moving on, so do that! Pick up a new hobby, indulge in an old one. Spend time out with friends, and keep your life moving steadily forward. Don’t let yourself pause to miss your ex, or think about it. Realize that life can continue without them.
Do What You Have to Do
Perhaps it’s not you that is having trouble letting go, but your ex – maybe they’re calling you, begging you, and hoping that you’ll come back? It’s possible, and often, it happens to the best of us. Because of this constant contact, we’re unable to let go of a relationship, and move forward.
Do what you have to do to stop this. You need to flat out tell your ex – with all due respect to both of you – no. No, you will not get back with them. No, you don’t love them anymore, and they need to move on with their life. If you must, end contact with mutual friends, and change your phone number.
Sound harsh? Maybe. But it’s unhealthy for you to be strung along, and you’re certainly not doing your ex any favors by humoring them. It’s bad for you both, and the sooner that you realize it, the sooner that you both can move on.
Letting go of a relationship is never easy, but you can do it. Work at it, and realize that, no matter what, there’s nothing you can do to change the past. Go forward, and hope for the best.